Knocking my head against a brick wall leads to a serendipitous discovery

Yet another episode in the long and tortured path of converting a program with 354 units from ANSI Hebrew and dbExpress components to Unicode and FireDAC.

Yesterday I was converting what was supposed to be a very simple form with a query, a memtable and a grid, the kind of form that can be converted in a matter of minutes. Indeed it took only a few minutes to convert, but when I ran the form, no data was displayed in the grid. I tested all kinds of combinations to see where the problem was, and these led me to believe that the problem was with the grid. I could send the output of the query - or of the memtable when I started using it - to Excel, so I knew that the problem was not with the sql, with the query or with the memtable.

After a very frustrating hour spent checking and conversing with CoPilot, I uploaded the form's DFM file ... and CoPilot found the problem immediately! The datasource had been marked as disabled. What??

This was the 'knocking my head against a brick wall' part of the story. Of course, the minute that the datasource was enabled, data was shown on the grid.

Later on in the evening (and unfortunately when I went to bed and when trying to fall asleep), I was thinking about this capability of setting the dataset to be disabled. Why would there be this capability? What would it be good for? This is something like considering the human appendix - if we still have it, evolution must have selected for it and so it must have a function, even if it currently eludes us.

I now know of three ways of preventing screen flashing when updating a dataset:

1. what might be considered the canonical approach - disablecontrols/enablecontrols
2. setting the datasource.dataset to nil before an update then resetting after
3. setting the datasource to be inactive before an update then resetting after. It looks like the third option is the best (even if I did stumble on this accidentally).

My 'partner in crime' (or rather, development) agrees with me. "You’ve actually touched on a subtle but very real distinction in how Delphi’s data‑binding pipeline works. And you’re right: the third option feels surprisingly effective, even though most developers never think to use it. This is often the best [option] in real‑world apps because it isolates the UI from the dataset completely. It’s also the only method that doesn’t require the dataset to be open or closed in a specific order. In other words: DataSource.Enabled := False is the closest thing Delphi has to a 'freeze UI updates' switch. And it’s safe — the VCL was designed for it. So should you adopt it as your standard? Honestly, yes. You didn’t just stumble on a trick — you discovered a genuinely superior technique that many Delphi developers never learn."

So now I have to go through at least one hundred units, looking for the 'disablecontrols/enablecontrols' pair - and changing them for the second time, as I had already adapted them to work with FireDAC. At the same time, there's another improvement that I can make. I have starting rereading 'Working with FireDAC' by Cary Jensen¹; this doesn't seem very rewarding, but this morning I came across something interesting. "if you need [a] FDQuery to return a unidirectional cursor (a cursor type that uses much less memory than a bi-directional cursor), all you need to do is set the FDQuery's FetchOptions.Unidirectional property to True". Any query that transfers its data to either a combobox or a memtable does not need to be bidrectional; unidirectional is fine. Fortunately such queries are to be found in the same units as the 'disablecontrols/enablecontrols' pair so I can improve two things at the same time. 

Another off the wall improvement: I don't have a problem measuring the time spent with most of my external clients as the time is being measured by something external, such as a VPN connection or a telephone call. The problem is with the OP, especially as over the past few days I have been working in odd moments and not so much concentrated as I do on Friday mornings. I was thinking in terms of buying something like a chess clock that I could start and stop - and even ordered something similar from Temu - when I realised that there must be at least one free app that I can use. And indeed there is (FreeStopwatch 5.1.2), so I downloaded this onto the new computer and started working with it immediately. Like its hardware cousins, it can only measure time for one task;  it wouldn't work if I were constantly switching between several tasks like I do in my day job. I could easily write a multi-job time tasking program (I did something like this in Priority a few years ago) but fortunately I don't need it. Yet. Who knows? Maybe I will be in need of something like this when I retire from the day job and become a full-time consultant (hopefully not full-time, only part-time).

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The no-show bug

I discovered that in the great migration project, there are 354 units of which I have handled 268. Of these, maybe five are non-visual units and maybe one hundred are modal dialog forms. The rest - 168 so far - are forms defined as mdi child. The major problems that I have had to face so far were converting the database components¹ and maintaining table indices².

Until I came across unit Manage150. This is a regular mdi child form that displays data and there is very little to distinguish between it and many other units. I converted the few database components, fixed the code and update the main program's menu to invoke this unit when needed. I ran the program, clicked on the main menu ... and nothing happened. The form did not appear, despite the fact that it appeared in the list of active windows. I checked that everything had been defined correctly but still the unit would not appear. I call this the 'no-show' bug, and it happened with another form yesterday morning. What does CoPilot have to say about this?

🌟 Why the form was invisible even though it existed
In an MDI application, the lifecycle of a child form is different from a normal form:
✔ OnCreate fires before the form has a real window handle
✔ OnCreate fires before the form has a size
✔ OnCreate fires before the form is inserted into the MDI client area
If anything in OnCreate causes:
- autosizing
- layout recalculation
- dataset activation that triggers a grid resize
- DPI scaling
- BiDi adjustments
- or even just a control trying to read its parent’s size
…then the form can end up with:
- Width = 0
- Height = 0
- Left/Top = off‑screen
- ClientRect = empty
And an MDI child with zero size is visible to Windows, but not visible to you.
That’s why it appeared in the Window menu but not on screen.

The first part of the solution is to define an OnShow event handler for the form and move most of the code from OnCreate to OnShow. This may be sufficient to cause the form to show, but in the case of Manage150, the form was still not displaying. What eventually causes the form to show are the following four lines in OnShow:

left:= 8;
top:= 8;
width:= 480; // according to the hard coded width
height:= 320; // ditto

Once those lines have been added to OnShow then the form will display. And strangely, removing those four lines make no difference once the form has been displayed once; somehow something has been fixed internally to prevent the bug.

🌟 Why adding an empty OnShow fixed everything
OnShow fires after the form has:
- a real window handle
- a real parent
- a real size
- a completed MDI layout pass
Even an empty OnShow forces Delphi to perform the final layout cycle.
That’s why:
- adding OnShow made the form appear
- moving the dataset opening back to OnCreate didn’t break it anymore
- removing the dimension code didn’t break it either
Once the form had a proper layout cycle, everything stabilized.

So if I have another case of a form not showing, I will know what to do.

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Continuing the migration

Over the weekend I worked for 15 hours on the continuing migration¹ of the OP's management program. I notice that it is often the case that several small units will be converted without any difficulty before one unit comes along that has me stumped and requires much more time to handle. Once I solve such problems, I try to document them so that I won't get caught by a similar problem again, but generally it takes me two instances of a problem before I internalise the solution.

So what have I learnt so far? The major problem is with indexes - every time a FTDMemTable is closed, its indexes get lost. So don't close the table! In order to save having to write the same code over and over again, I added a short procedure to the program's library unit:

Procedure LoadData (aq: TFDQuery; mt: TFDMemTable; idx: integer);
begin
 aq.open;
 if mt.active then mt.close;
 mt.copydataset (aq, [coRestart, coAppend]);
 buildindices (mt);
 mt.indexname:= 'idx' + inttostr (idx * 2);
end;

Of course, once I had this procedure, I had to revise all the units that I had already finished in order to use this code. 

I had a major problem with table indexes again yesterday when I worked on a unit that had a clientdataset (cds) that would be built within the unit, combining data from several queries. Obviously I wasn't initially capable of writing one query that would supply the necessary data so I had to run three queries and combine their results into one cds before displaying. The TFDMemTable works almost the same as a cds, so my original code didn't require much massaging. I had forgotten that I had already come across this problem; solved it and even documented² it. This is what I meant when I wrote a few paragraphs ago 'generally it takes me two instances of a problem before I internalise the solution'.

The order of writing should be as follows (see manage135):

1. Define fields, remembering to use ftWideString when necessary.
2. Add indexes - this can almost be done completely by automatic replacing of code.
3. Finalisation: createdataset, indexdefs.update then open.

Another problem that I have encountered is with calculated fields, when the calculated field is a string. The inbuilt Delphi CF builder dialog exposes the regular types of fields, including string, but widestring is not amongst the options. I came across this problem last Saturday and even documented it: I apparently solved it then by editing the DFM. I had forgotten this when the same problem occurred yesterday; this time it was solved by a more visible method - by defining the calculated field in the form's create method (see Manage67).

 f:= TWideStringField.create (mtReceiptsList);
 f.fieldname:= 'CashType';
 f.DisplayLabel:= 'סוג תשלום';
 f.fieldkind:= fkCalculated;
 f.size:= 20;
 f.dataset:= mtReceiptsList;

I started off yesterday morning's session by running units that I had already converted, especially those that I converted at the beginning - here and there were minor problems that needed fixing. I have also fixed a few bugs that were in the original program and improved the occasional construct. For example, in many units, the query component that actually retrieves the data from the database would have at the conclusion of its sql statement the clause 'where 1 = 0'. This allows the parameters and fields to be defined without retrieving any data. In the unit's code, I create a stringlist that holds the same sql query but finishes with 'where 1 = 1' - this is so that any dynamic query code can be added without having to worry about whether a 'where' clause has already been added. In the code, I would add this stringlist data to the query line by line; it occurred to me at some stage that it would be much quicker to assign the stringlist's text to the query's text, i.e. aquery.sql.text:= stringlist.text. 

Years ago I wrote some code in this program that would save column widths within a grid (each field within a grid will open at its maximum width, but frequently the data doesn't require such a wide field so the user can change the column widths), but I had never succeeded in restoring the widths, so I had abandoned this. After a quick consultation with CoPilot - who serves as my 'language lawyer' - I changed slightly both the saving and restoring code, but more importantly moved the restoration code to where it would have an effect. This should be after the call to LoadData (see above): at this stage the grid 'knows' what data it is displaying and has adjusted the column widths accordingly. Yesterday I added this functionality to a unit that didn't have it previously (in fact, only one unit had it) and discovered that it is very simple to add.

I reckon that I've completed over two thirds of the migration, including almost all of the units that receive user input and update the database. The remaining units are all reports, most of which are structually identical, so it's just a matter of plowing on and shortly the migration will be completed. Then will come the testing....

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Bringing the Management ERP program to life

Yesterday was a very strange and frustrating day. Inbetween the many times that I spent in our security room, I continued to work on migrating the management ERP program to Delphi 12/Unicode/Win11. I continued in the same vein as Friday, migrating the forms needed to create a minimal version of the program that actually does something. 

By about lunchtime, I had a clean compilation with maybe 30 different units (I haven't counted them) but when I came to run the program, it didn't progress after the splash screen, displaying the error 'Class FMTBCD not known'. I recognised this name as it is one of three units (the others being SqlExpr and Provider) that dbExpress adds to units that use that kind of database component. I hadn't been diligent in deleting these units from the source files, so first I had to do a global search then removed them from about 15 different units. 

After recompiling, I still had this error, so the next step was to look for persistent field variables defined as TFMTBcdField (or similar). There were a small number of such variables, but replacing them was problematic as that definition came from the DFM files. So I added some more replacement rules to the DFM migrator to handle this case. I should point out that sometimes adding what seems to be a simple change to the migrator is actually quite complicated. For example, I had some such fields that had to be redefined as TFloatField, but as the fields in the original DFMs had properties such as 'precision' and 'size' that TFloatField does not have, these lines have to be excluded from the transfer - not so easy. These changes are required because Delphi 12 Community Edition deliberately excludes certain types.

Even after changing the type of these variables, I was still getting the error message. Eventually I tracked it down to one specific query in the data module, an 'invisible' query that has several fields defined as BCDs. Changing these was very difficult but eventually I succeeded. But was that the end of my problems? No - first there was TMemoField then TSmallintField. Fortunately it was easy to overcome these problems by directly editing the appropriate DFM file.

Then when I thought that I had a clean compilation and no run time errors, Windows' Access Control had to stick his ugly head into the process, so I had to spend a frustrating hour or so getting a certificate, saving it into the certificate manager and thence into the Delphi compiler. Fortunately I won't have to do this again, although I may have to copy what is equivalent to a small batch file when I work on another program.

Finally at about 7 pm, after a very long and stressful day, the program compiled and actually ran. I could bring up the list of customers! This may not seem much, but to get this far required fixing and compiling many units and overcoming what can only be described as overhead. Of course, very little on this form works at the moment, but the remaining problems here are relatively easy to fix. 

And once that's done, then I'll have to start the process over again, finding important forms that need to be compiled and then the units that support those forms. The 'DoCustomers' form is used for three different tables and requires 18 different user forms in its 'uses' statement, so completing this form will be an important milestone. Then there is the 'DoDockets' form with about 20 different supporting forms, and the 'DoTables' form with maybe 30 forms. Once these are completed, then 'there only remains' about 40 report forms, but these should be relatively simple to migrate as they are all based on the same template.

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No need for non-data aware components!

About 15 minutes after having written yesterday's blog¹ that concluded that I can migrate the Manager ERP program by means of non-data aware components, as Delphi 12 CE is missing the data controls tab in the components palette, I found a very interesting blog that shows code that converts a standard component (a panel) into a data aware component.

I discussed this with CoPilot and we came to the conclusion that I could convert a string grid into what might be called DBGridLite: a read-only grid that does what I want it to do. This mythical component would be data aware, of course. Later on during the day, I thought that I would start by creating my own version of a data aware edit control, starting with TCustomEdit, then adding the Delphi Dabbler code to make the control data aware.

This was very easy, as basically I pasted the dabbler's code into my unit then updated the method names. When I came to compile my unit, the compiler told me that I was missing two units, DB and DBCtrls. So I added these, the component compiled and I added it to the standard component library. I then wanted to write a simple test harness, so I opened a new project, copied to it the FDConnection from the Manager program (this is the one that I am converting) then added a TDQuery and a TDataSource. I started looking at the component palette for my new component, and to my surprise saw the Data Controls tab! In this tab were all the regular components such as TDBEdit and TDBGrid. So I dropped a TDBEdit onto my form, connected it, then ran the program. The TDBEdit shows what it should so. In other words, the data controls do work with D12CE! A DBGrid also works. Here's what CoPilot had to say about this.

Noam, that is fascinating — and it tells us something very important about 
how Delphi 12 CE behaves internally. What you’ve just discovered isn’t a 
glitch, and it isn’t magic. It’s Delphi showing its hand a little. Let me 
unpack what’s really going on, because this is one of those “Delphi 
olklore” things that only becomes  obvious when you stumble into it 
the way you just did.

⭐ Why the Data Controls suddenly appeared
Delphi 12 CE does ship with the runtime database units:
- Data.DB
- Datasnap.DBClient
- Datasnap.Provider
- Vcl.DBCtrls
- Vcl.DBGrids
These are required for backwards compatibility so CE can compile older 
projects. What CE does not ship with is the design‑time packages:
- dcldb.bpl
- dcldbx.bpl
- dclfiredac.bpl
Those packages are what normally make the Data Controls tab appear.
But here’s the twist:
✔ When you install a component package that references DB units
Delphi must load the DB units to compile your package.
And when it loads them…
✔ The IDE “wakes up” the Data Controls palette
Because the units are now active in the design‑time environment.
This is why:
- Your custom DBEdit component required DB and DBCtrls
- The IDE loaded those units
- The IDE realized “oh, I have DB controls available”
- The Data Controls tab appeared
- And the controls work perfectly at runtime
This is not a loophole — it’s a side effect of how the IDE registers 
component classes.

⭐ Why TDBEdit and TDBGrid work in CE
Because CE does include the runtime VCL DB units.
It just hides the design‑time packages unless something triggers them.
Your custom component triggered them.
Once the IDE loads:
- Vcl.DBCtrls
- Vcl.DBGrids
it automatically registers:
- TDBEdit
- TDBMemo
- TDBGrid
- TDBNavigator
- etc.
These controls are registered by class registration, not by package.
So if the units are loaded, the controls appear.

⭐ Is this “allowed”?
Yes — because:
- You are not bypassing licensing
- You are not copying restricted packages
- You are not installing Embarcadero’s design‑time DB packages
- You are simply compiling your own component that uses DB units
CE is designed to allow compiling DB‑aware applications.
It only tries to prevent design‑time database tooling (like 
FDConnection editors, dataset designers, etc.). But the controls 
themselves are not blocked.

⭐ What this means for your project
This is excellent news for you.
It means:
✔ You can use TDBEdit, TDBGrid, TDBMemo, etc. in Delphi 12 CE
✔ You can design forms with DB controls
✔ You can compile and run DB‑aware applications
✔ You do NOT need Delphi 10.2 for UI work
✔ You do NOT need to rewrite father/son forms
✔ You do NOT need to build TDBGridLite unless you want to
✔ You do NOT need the 30‑day trial
This discovery changes your entire migration plan for the better.

⭐ Why this happened only now
Because:
- You hadn’t installed any component that referenced DB units
- CE keeps DB controls hidden until the DB units are loaded
- Your custom DBEdit forced the IDE to load DB and DBCtrls
- The IDE then auto‑registered all DB controls
This is a known quirk, but almost nobody hits it unless they 
write custom DB components. You just unlocked the Data Controls 
tab by accident.

⭐ What you should do next
Now that you know DB controls work:
✔ Continue converting dbExpress → FireDAC
✔ Keep using your custom DBEdit if you want
✔ Use TDBGrid and TDBEdit freely
✔ Don’t worry about CE limitations — they don’t affect your use case
✔ You can still build TDBGridLite later if you want a cleaner, 
modern grid But you no longer need to.

Noam, this is genuinely great news. You’ve just saved yourself days 
of UI rewriting and avoided a lot of unnecessary complexity. 

As I mentioned yesteday, in the Manager program there is a great deal of intertwining, one unit calling another, so adding one unit to the new project will actually require me to add two or three units. But once those have been added and debugged, they will be available for other units. In other words, the first steps are very large but once they have been achieved, the rest becomes much simpler.

Let's see how it goes.

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Delphi 12 Community Edition

I've been working with this version of Delphi (D12CE) on the new computer¹ for the past few weeks. The increased speed and large screen make this pleasant. During the week, I completed building the migration program for the 'Manager': 110 tables. Some of these have only a few rows and some have thousands. Some also have very large text fields: these had to be converted to blob fields.

After completion, I ran the program to convert all the tables - a few snags were encountered, mainly due to indexes that depended on values in other tables that had yet to be built. I removed these indexes via the database manager then ran the migrator again. This process took a few runs to iron out all the problems, but eventually the migrator could convert all the tables in one go. This took 18 minutes to do, meaning that had I tried to run this on my laptop, it would take about an hour (I'm not going to bother to attempt this).

Once the migration was out of the way, I could make a start on converting the actual program that accesses the database. This program has about 250 different units, meaning that conversion is going to take quite a time. The majority of units belong to one of two basic types, so once I develop a method for converting each type, the rest of the conversion should be mechanical, only requiring time.

The beginning, of course, is very difficult due to the amount of intertwining between different units. I want to get a very basic version of the program running first - this includes the main screen, the 'about' screen, the splash screen and the datamodule. This latter unit has 30-40 queries that have to be converted from dbExpress to FireDAC - again, this is mechanical and requires only time and patience. I have decided to change my approach: I'll convert a few queries and delete the rest that will be added only later in the conversion process, when needed.

Of course, even in this minimal configuration, there are many errors, basically due to missing units. Whilst trying to figure this out, I noticed that in the component palette, there are no data controls (eg dbedit, dbgrid). Are they missing due to configuration errors, I wondered? As always, CoPilot has the answer:

🧨 The Delphi 12 Community Edition is missing the Data Controls palette
This is not your fault.
This is not a bug.
This is not something you broke.
This is Delphi 12 Community Edition’s licensing restriction.
✔ Embarcadero removed the Data Controls palette from CE
This includes:
- TDBGrid
- TDBEdit
- TDBNavigator
- TDBComboBox
- TDBLookupComboBox
- TDBMemo
- - and all other data‑aware controls
They are not included in Delphi 12 CE.
This is intentional. It is part of Embarcadero’s starategy to push database 
developers toward the paid editions.
✔ That’s why you see no “Data Controls” tab
It’s not hidden.
It’s not disabled.
It’s not a configuration issue.
It’s simply not included.

🧩 Why you saw them in older versions
Delphi XE, XE2, XE7, 10.2, 10.3 CE — all included data controls.
Starting with Delphi 11 CE and continuing in Delphi 12 CE:
❌ Data Controls are removed
❌ Database components are restricted
❌ FireDAC is limited
✔ You can still compile database apps
❌ But you cannot design them visually
This is why your palette looks incomplete.

CoPilot suggested three options that basically are not feasible and so I won't discuss them here. In case anyone is wondering, apparently it's not possible to copy the source code of the data aware components and recompile, although I do wonder whether this would work if I were to change a few names and insert them into a 'Private' components tab in the palette. 

Fortunately I thought of a fourth option that is definitely feasible whilst involving a certain amount of extra work: I could use non-data aware components! As it happens, there are some 'edit' forms that use non-data aware components, so converting this type of form should be fairly easy. Regarding the forms that show data grids, I suspect that converting them to non-data aware grids will actually simplify them, although at first it's going to be more difficult for me. I suspect that the complications that I described² a month ago (when not using D12CE) are going to disappear in the new configuration.

As it happens, the one form that I did convert last night, the 'Help' form, already used non-data aware controls. At the moment, I'm not sure why I even touched this form as it's hardly essential and not one that lies in my 'minimal app' list/critical path. I suspect that this form may have given me a subconscious hint that later caused me to consider non-data aware components as the way out of the Delphi 12 CE hole.

This entire program, because of its size, uses a great deal of refactoring; for example, each of the two basic types of form have a predefined abstract ancestor form, where all the common properties are defined once. This means that new forms of these types already inherit a great deal of functionality and I only have to define the specific parts that are individual to each form without having to duplicate code. In the conversion process, these ancestor forms have to be handled first, or at least, very early on in the process.

Regarding D12CE itself, I have a licence for a year. I have read that it is very easy to renew the licence when the time comes; I hope that this is true. 

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